Comments on: The internet as an amplifier for passive-aggressive behavior http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/ Thoughts of a minor lunatic Wed, 07 Jan 2009 19:56:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: generic benicar http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/comment-page-1/#comment-52189 generic benicar Fri, 25 Jul 2008 11:57:04 +0000 http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/#comment-52189 fpxlj jxgzu fpxlj jxgzu

]]> By: Hmmm... http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/comment-page-1/#comment-49639 Hmmm... Sun, 22 Jul 2007 04:36:31 +0000 http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/#comment-49639 Yes... everything in Google looks like it happened 5 minutes ago. Did you do something stupid 10 years ago from which you have now learned something? Too bad. But also, it means that given our tendency to judge so harshly, Google is dangerous to ourselves because it is the tool we need when we go out and censor anything contrary to the opinion of the majority. As a result, we all have a tendency to become more or less the same. And lack of diversity is well known to be bad. Google's not to blame though. It's all our fault. This begs the question: why do we judge so harshly in the first place? I think that regardless of the reason, we are too scared to face the truth because deep inside we know what is going on. We just don't like it, so we look away, pretend, and continue as usual. Yes… everything in Google looks like it happened 5 minutes ago. Did you do something stupid 10 years ago from which you have now learned something? Too bad.

But also, it means that given our tendency to judge so harshly, Google is dangerous to ourselves because it is the tool we need when we go out and censor anything contrary to the opinion of the majority. As a result, we all have a tendency to become more or less the same. And lack of diversity is well known to be bad.

Google’s not to blame though. It’s all our fault.

This begs the question: why do we judge so harshly in the first place? I think that regardless of the reason, we are too scared to face the truth because deep inside we know what is going on. We just don’t like it, so we look away, pretend, and continue as usual.

]]> By: petrilli http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/comment-page-1/#comment-49638 petrilli Sun, 22 Jul 2007 02:42:46 +0000 http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/#comment-49638 We are all faulty people, that much is certain, but there is a certain disfunctionality that results in an intense passive-aggressive behavior that grates at my very core. I have always been, if overly so, confrontational. It might be a revolt against my parents, who sometimes excelled at not addressing issues, but it is also a long-standing desire to not see things fester longer than they must. This is most especially true when it involves the relationship between two people, whatever shape it might take. I believe my point, which may not have been made as eloquently as I might have liked, was that sometimes we spout off all sorts of things online, in recorded form, that we would never consider putting in a physical letter, or saying in a "public forum," and yet what is the Internet -- aided by Google -- but the world's largest public forum, without boundaries and without consideration for time and space? We are all faulty people, that much is certain, but there is a certain disfunctionality that results in an intense passive-aggressive behavior that grates at my very core. I have always been, if overly so, confrontational. It might be a revolt against my parents, who sometimes excelled at not addressing issues, but it is also a long-standing desire to not see things fester longer than they must. This is most especially true when it involves the relationship between two people, whatever shape it might take.

I believe my point, which may not have been made as eloquently as I might have liked, was that sometimes we spout off all sorts of things online, in recorded form, that we would never consider putting in a physical letter, or saying in a “public forum,” and yet what is the Internet—aided by Google—but the world’s largest public forum, without boundaries and without consideration for time and space?

]]> By: Michael Gorsuch, Timid Iconoclast » Passive-Aggressive Behavior and the World Wide Web http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/comment-page-1/#comment-49637 Michael Gorsuch, Timid Iconoclast » Passive-Aggressive Behavior and the World Wide Web Sun, 22 Jul 2007 01:52:39 +0000 http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/#comment-49637 [...] Disturbingly, I’m sure this author is spot on. [...] [...] Disturbingly, I’m sure this author is spot on. [...]

]]> By: Hmmm... http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/comment-page-1/#comment-49636 Hmmm... Sun, 22 Jul 2007 01:15:10 +0000 http://blog.amber.org/2007/07/21/the-internet-as-an-amplifier-for-passive-aggressive-behavior/#comment-49636 I think it is also a reflection of how twisted our perceptions of ourselves truly is. Now, surely nobody would expect perfect behavior from anybody --- but with the results from Google, we seem to like it so much to give ourselves the right to judge anybody without considering how our own faults bias our decisions. Doing so is also dangerous because it may imply the assumption that, once reaches a particular age, there should be all these things that were learned and that there is nothing else to perfect. How about we stop looking at each other so harshly? We might even realize we are all very modest live beings. I think it is also a reflection of how twisted our perceptions of ourselves truly is. Now, surely nobody would expect perfect behavior from anybody—- but with the results from Google, we seem to like it so much to give ourselves the right to judge anybody without considering how our own faults bias our decisions.

Doing so is also dangerous because it may imply the assumption that, once reaches a particular age, there should be all these things that were learned and that there is nothing else to perfect.

How about we stop looking at each other so harshly? We might even realize we are all very modest live beings.

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